During my reflection, it occurred to me that perhaps others also find themselves wondering occasionally what does it really mean to surrender in your own individual life situations? I don't think that it has just one meaning, and it may look different for everyone. So, how does one begin to surrender? And surrender to what? And why is surrendering important? These are some of the questions that have been percolating in me.
One morning at sunrise, I sat by the ocean taking in its awesome expanse and two large birds flew directly over my head (I don't know what type, but they were big. Not like Pterodactyl size or anything, but bigger than a longtail!). I became mesmerised by their dance and the mechanics of their flight. They would flap their wings several times very quickly, then glide...flap, then glide, catching the air currents that carried them around in circles. For the length of time that they made an effort to flap their wings, the glide time was about double. I could feel the power of their wings as they soared over me, yet simultaneously I felt the ease of their flight because they knew how to use the natural energies that were available to them.
I realized just then that this is often how surrender works in our lives. There is effort in the beginning - we do, we strive, we plan...something...then there is a (sometimes through no choice of our own) turning it over to some other "energy" that carries us the rest of the way. What's interesting is that we don't always know that "air current" is there until we stop the manic doing, planning, controlling. It's not a giving up, but a "dropping in" kind of quality.
In my yoga classes, I talk about finding the effortlessness in the movements as we transition in and out of postures. When the mind is not so focused on "getting it right", it becomes absorbed in a greater awareness. Sometimes surrendering comes through sheer exhaustion, because only when we stop trying to impose our ideas on what the outcome should be, can that buoyant "energy" come and carry us to the other side of a situation.
This weekend I did a powerful Shamanic Breathwork workshop where I explored surrender even more. And the short of it is that I found a word for that "energy". The word came as sweetly and as softly as a morning whisper in your ear....surrender, it said, into the arms of "Love". So, surrender my friends. See what happens when you let Love be your guide in all things that you do. See if you feel less stressed, less burdened, less under pressure to make something happen. Surrendering is not a sign of weakness, quite the opposite, it is a sign of strength. It is recognising that you are not in control, and it's okay....it's actually better than okay. Because when you allow the Love to flow, the end result is always sweeter, more beautiful, and more perfect than anything you could have imagined for yourself. Perhaps that's the real meaning of being "carried away by Love".
My 3 quick steps to surrendering in any situation:
1. Breathe In
2. Breathe Out
Love & sweet blessings,